For this blog
post, we were prompted to reflect on our own childhoods. Given the nature of
Kyle’s blog post and the topic of the Rosin article, I specifically reflected
on instances from my child that spoke to the ways in which I (and/or my
siblings) was or wasn’t closely monitored as a child and the ways that I did or
didn’t engage with danger. For instance, I remember that my family spent
several years living in town, literally across the street from the local elementary
school, which went up to third grade. During our first year living in that
house, my sister was in third grade, and I was in ninth grade. I remember that
my mom insisted that either I or my brother (a sixth-grader, at the time) pick
my sister up and walk her home from school each day. I thought it was
ridiculous, considering that my sister was eight years old and should know how
to safely cross the street. Looking back on it as an adult, though, I get my
mother’s worry about the increased volume of traffic, between the school buses
and the parents picking their children up from school. Not to mention that,
before moving into this house, we’d lived on a dirt road about 10 minutes
outside of town, where there was never any traffic more than the infrequent
passing car, so it makes sense that she would worry about my sister not knowing
how to navigate it safely, with no crossing guard or other adult supervision.
When I say “in town” or “out of town,” I want to be clear that “town” was less than 2 square
miles of paved roads with a two-way stop (no light, just a sign) at the
main intersection. My graduating class was fewer than 200 people, many of
whom I had known since pre-school. A number of my classmates and close friends
grew up on working farms and had responsibilities related to caring for animals
and operating machinery. In this context, I experienced a mix of both more and
less freedom than it seemed to me that kids in the US in general did, based on
what I saw in movies, TV, and books. For instance, I never got to spend a
Halloween walking around with my friends, without parents to guide us or remind
us to say “thank you” in addition to “trick or treat.” The houses where I lived
were simply too far apart – after we moved from the house in town, we ended up
on a back road again, where the two closest crossroads were a mile apart, and
we were the only house on our side of the road for that entire stretch (across
the road was a pasture where the neighboring farmer let his cows graze).
Instead, my mom drove us around on Halloween night, and she would stay in the
car in various driveways as my siblings and I walked up to the door to collect
our candy. I also never went to the mall to hang out with my friends, since the
nearest one was in Flint, about 45 minutes’ drive away. As for walking downtown
after school on my own, I snatched that opportunity without asking my mom for
permission when I was in, I think, seventh grade. I figured it was easier to
ask forgiveness than permission (or, you know, I just didn’t have to tell her,
as long as I was at the school waiting to be picked up after Quizbowl practice
got out). This wasn’t any kind of standard coming-of-age ritual, though – walking
downtown by yourself wasn’t really a big deal, because there wasn’t much to do
there.
At the same time, though, there were plenty of ways in which I was less
supervised than “typical” US kids of the 1990s. At the back of my grandparents’
property was the beginning of some woods, and there was a treehouse back there
that had belonged to my uncle when he was younger. I spent many hours playing
back there with my siblings, cousins, and friends, and we were barely within
hollering distance of the adults in the house. I remember once that four of us
decided to explore deeper in the woods than ever before, and we got completely
lost. We ended up coming out into the backyard of a house on the next road down
(about a mile away), and we thought about knocking and asking for help, but we
were too nervous about encountering someone mean, so instead we kept wandering
until we caught sight of my grandparents’ house again and finally made our way
back. I think we were gone for at least an hour, and no one seemed to have even
noticed. My grandparents also had an old junker car in their backyard that we
frequently played on/in/around. Again, this was with very little explicit
concern for our safety – the car wasn’t kid-proofed by any means (except that
it didn’t run, so there was no fear of us starting it up and driving it into a
tree).
Tobin, Hsueh, and Karasawa talked about the missing rural story in China, and
about the fact that some studies indicate that there is greater difference between
urban and rural schools than there is between schools in different regions of
the country. To some degree, this rings true to me, given the ways I’ve
described here that my own childhood differed from the “normal,” suburban,
middle class childhoods that I observed in the media. Stories about kids in big
cities (like “The Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler,” a favorite)
felt so foreign to me, in some ways (Claudia knew how to take the subway!).
Still, my own childhood and schooling experience was also distinctly American.
In Tobin and colleagues’ descriptions of the pre-schools in Hawaii and Arizona,
I recognize elements of my own experience – like the use of storybooks to
introduce a science topic, and the use of hands-on experimentation.
Another resource
that reflects this idea of schooling as a cultural activity is “The
Teaching Gap” by Stigler and Heibert. These authors were involved with the TIMSS (Third
International Mathematics and ScienceStudy), and they wrote comparing
eighth-grade math teaching in Germany, Japan, and the US. These authors
explicitly define teaching as an activity that follows cultural scripts, and
they write about the ways that the cultural scripts in Germany and Japan can
suggest potential improvements for US teaching.
The degree to
which children are or aren’t monitored by adults is also cultural in nature. This
article discusses the degree of freedom that kids in Japan have, compared
to the US, and attributes it to cultural values such as “group reliance” and
shared responsibility for public spaces. This is, in some ways, the opposite of
my own experience – my own freedom to get lost in the woods had less to do with
that space being cared for by everyone, and more to do with the lack of such
curated spaces nearby – the woods was all we had.